by Lori Wesmiller, MS
A message for midlife parents who are struggling to transition from raising children to supporting adult kids
When your child grows up, you expect things to get easier.
But instead, many of us are left asking a quiet question we didn’t see coming:
“What’s my role now?”
If you’ve ever wrestled with how much to help, when to step back, or how to stop feeling guilty for wanting a life of your own—you’re not alone. And you’re not a bad parent. You’re simply navigating a part of the journey no one warned you about.
Why I Wrote This Book
They’re Grown—Now What? was born out of the countless conversations I’ve had as a therapist—and as a mother. I’ve watched strong, compassionate parents lose themselves trying to hold everything together for their adult children, all while quietly pushing their own needs, dreams, and healing aside.
This book is for the ones who feel torn between love and exhaustion.
It’s for the moms who still get 2 a.m. crisis calls and the dads who feel invisible in the parenting equation.
It’s for anyone who’s asking, “How do I let go, without letting them fall?”
What You’ll Find Inside
This isn’t a book that tells you to “just cut them off” or “toughen up.”
It’s a gentle but honest guide for the in-between—where love meets limits, and where your own identity matters, too.
Inside, we’ll explore:
Setting boundaries with adult children (without guilt) Understanding midlife burnout and how to heal What healthy adult relationships actually look like Coping with estrangement or distance Rediscovering your own life, joy, and voice
Every chapter is grounded in clinical insight and real-life experience—written by someone who’s walked the road, too.
For the Parent Who’s Still Giving Everything
If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying the invisible load of everyone else’s emotions…
If you’ve been afraid to say, “I’m struggling,” because you’re the one everyone counts on…
If you’ve wondered who you are beyond being “Mom” or “Dad”…
This book is for you.
Ready to Begin?
They’re Grown—Now What? is now available in paperback, hardcover, and eBook formats. Whether you’re reading with a highlighter in hand or keeping it tucked on your nightstand for when things feel heavy, I hope these pages offer insight, relief, and a reminder that you matter too.
Thank you for being part of this journey with me.
Let’s change the conversation around midlife parenting—one honest page at a time.
With heart,
Lori Wesmiller, MS
Therapist | Midlife Mom | Founder of Balance & Bloom 50+
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